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Looking back at 2019

Then we are here at again. I am surprised that the year went so far and yet amazed that I am sitting here being able to write you because it has not been a easy year.

There have been challenges work-related. There have been challenges with my health. There have been illness and death in my family.

In 2016 I hit a van which took an illegal right turn. I hit the side of the van with the left side of my head. I was wearing a helmet which properly saved my life.

I got a serious scar in my face, whiplash, hurt my back and broke a bone in my left arm.

A year and a half later the nerves in my teeth started to die. It was on the left side. The Dentist school in Copenhagen did a good job and saved them but it took a full year.

Today I am not able to drive many hours in my car. I get too tired due to problems with my neck.

I am in treatment for issues with my back.

But I am alive. Sadly that means that I no longer can function as consultant because I can not drive for long time and in Denmark public transport only works in major cities and some of my customers are located otherwhere. So I have to remain working with customer care from an office.

My mother suffered from cancer. It seems that she makes it through.

Two members of my household have an illness which sadly set a mark on the way a day can pass.

Two of my aunts passed away this year.

And there was a lot of stuff in my house which broke. I paid DKK 10,000 for new electricity.

2019 was not my year – That is as simple as I can say it.

So 2020 will be a question about surviving it. I will continue to struggle keeping my job, the kids struggle to make it through schooling and not losing more family in the process.

It is also really sad when looking at Denmark in general. More and more jobs leave our country to be located in country where people can settle with less. It is not necessary that my position should be located in Denmark and should it be relocated, I am out because I cannot leave my family behind to work abroad.

The economy will slow down, they say. I do not know if it will like in 2008, but I hope not.

I wish everyone a happy new year. Based on what 2019 was, it can only improve.


Beautiful visit to the Harz area

Together with my family, I visited the Harz area in Germany.

The base for our stay was in Goslar which is a town with both market and old historic buildings. We drove down there 9 persons in two cars. Although it was a long drive and the highways were marked with a lot of road repairs, we made it in about 10 hours.

The Hotel was nice. Very good breakfast. The dinner served was a bit different and bit more heavy compared to the food we are acustomed to but we have to remember that we were in another country and local customs should be respected.

We visited places like the old mine near Goslar, Brocken of course – I did not leave my wife there. It is a bit expensive to take the train to the top. Normally I would have prefered to walk the 16 kilometers but we only had a few days and not everyone is a mobile as I am, so the train is really the only option as private cars are not allowed which makes the area kind of undisturbed which is fine.

Goslar itself is a small town and they have a market on some Saturdays. The nearby cities are also interesting to visit.

I can only recommend a visit to this part of Germany.


Looking back at year 2018

The year 2018 was a year where a lot of things took place.

It was the first year since 2012 where I stopped paying a monthly fine for illness in my family. The burden of paying DKK 41 per child every single day for treatment which should have been covered by the taxes I pay as a Dane stopped. For five years and 6 months the first thought of the day was how to raise this extra sum while still providing for family and the last thought of the day how to do it tomorrow has covered my entire life. There was no room for anything extra. No travels abroad as a family. No plans for the future. Forget reaching out for higher goals, planning career or even thinking about how to guide your children towards a brighter future.

No everything and anything has been about raising the extra money. “You did appeal that?” people have asked me when they learned about this bizarre decision. Yes. I appealed that. This year I learned that the city administration in Egedal had my case stored somewhere without any case handling going on stored at a lawyer. For 2 years I continued to pay while none looked at my appeal. For 2 years I had to endure tears in the eyes of my family when the lack of funds forced them to questioned if there would be food on the table at the dinner. If they should drop out of school because they could not afford the transport to school.

I work 31 kilometers from home. I use my bicycle and it take between 1,5 hour and 2 hours depending of the weather. “Why do you not use public transport?” co-workers outside Denmark ask me. First it is too expensive to live far from your work. Public transport become more expensive every year. There is a tax-deduction for people like me who live far away from work but it is based on the cost of gas for cars and while the prices of gas has been stable, the costs of using public transport has not. Siden year 2001 the price of using public transport has increased 30 percent more compared to average prices in our society.

If you look at Denmark signs of a kind of road-pricing barrier is appearing. Housing with low rents are purchased by the US based investment firms who lure the old renters out while the make so-called improvements to the houses which triples the rent. If you work ordinary jobs in the shops or in the police, you cannot afford an apartment in the larger cities in Denmark. If you will study it is difficult to find something unless your parents can buy an apartment together with other parents. So social heritage does matter in Denmark. If you are new to Denmark you might come with a naive believing in that you can be anything. Think twice!

It is in that turmoil I am bringing up two children. One is adult now but carries the burden of the injustice done against her. The diagnosis and recommendations from Hillerod Hospital ignored has resulted in all the warnings of what could end up worse come to life. A long struggle in life awaits her.

My youngest is now 16. He came home this summer. Unfortunately home to an uphill battle as a computer we purchased second hand did not work as intended and because computers are vitale in the modern education sector the possibility of him succeeding is not certain. Part of the problem is that he had 13 math. teachers during his time in school. The government in Denmark decided to amputate the education sector by forcing a school reform into existence financed by lowering of the teachers salaries. Of course many teachers left their job because the new salary system forced them into other lines of businesses. The children – my son among them became victim of the school reform. Now he will have to find a position to stay in until he can reach his pension age. The most important thing in life for him will be to learn the lesson of settle with less and not reaching out for goals which are for people who got private schooling instead of public schooling which is something out of reach for families with ordinary income.

My health did not improve during the year. I have tried many forms of training without any improvement. The traffic accident in 2016 has made me an invalid. I become tired very fast. Pain in neck and back is something I experience several times per week. November I together with my family started a new fitness program. Hopefully it will contribute to a life with less pain.

Where there not anything good to be said about 2018?

Yes. There was.

Two holidays I spend together with my family. The first one went to Paris. I was the first time since 2001, I traveled together with my family to a foreign country if we leave the small one-day visits to Malmo out. Malmo has sadly been the center of shootings and bombings so it has been some years since we were, but it is a nice city. However Paris is a totally other ballgame. It was a nice visit.

The second place we visited was Rhodes inviting by my inlaws. It was also a good vacation. Sadly I got the flu but it does not change the facts that we were given a one-in-a-lifetime experience, we would never have been able to make on our own.

I will remember those two holidays for the years I have left.

Now only one destination is lacking with us a family travelling together. We hope to do it in year 2021 and then it is done. We would have seen the world and it is time to focus on surviving the last few years in Denmark.

While I have not been able to produce my utmost due to my injuries, I spent a year more at my present workplace grateful that I have been allowed to serve there despite my advanced aging. If only retirement came sooner everything would look better.

Both the battle and war for a good life has been lost thanks to the monthly payment. The damage is irreversible. My final hope is to win in the state lottery, so 2019 and the years to come will be executed serving my workplace while waiting and see if there is a chance to win.

That was 2018 for me. 2019 is ahead of both me and my family. Uphill it will be but the hope of a win is still there and it will be the one bright light at the end of the tunnel we will be aiming at.